Chapter 4

THE SELF

Self means the discussion and context of the individual.
It also can be deemed as the way in which communication and interpretation of messages take place within individual.
The area of "self" can be explored and widen into self-concept, self-awareness, self-esteem and self-disclosure.

1. Self-concept
* It is how you feel and think about yourself.
* areas that affect self-concept is social comparison, other's images of you, self interpretation & evaluations and cultural teaching.

2. Self-awareness
* is a process of discovering your personal development and understanding.
* not only limited to the individual but also for others around you that will help you to become self aware about your ability.
* The Four Self - Houston Window

- the four different windows explain different parts of ourselves that we know ourselves; others know better than we do; some remain hidden from other and some totally UNKNOWN to you or anyone.

- open arena: known to self and others
- facade: known to self but unknown to others
- blind spot: unknown to you but known to others
-unknown: unknown to you and others

* you can growing in self awareness by listen to others, increase your open self, seek information about yourself and dialogue with yourself.

3. Self-esteem
* means confidence or the level of trust or assurance to yourself
* way to increase self esteem:
   - attack self-destructive people
   - seek out nourishing people
   - work on project that will result in success
   - remind yourself of your success
   - secure affirmation

4. Self-disclosure
* is an act of telling others about things that they wouldn't know about you - telling your hidden self
* factors influencing self disclosure
   - who you are
   - your culture
   - your gender
   - your listeners
   - your topic and channel